Why do we continue to associate with people that are not lifting us up? We all have them in our lives… You know the person that tells you that you are negative, that you will not accomplish your dreams/goals, and that only shows up/calls you when they need something. Where is this relationship going? Are you waiting for them to change? Who is in control of this relationship (are you following them or are they following you)?
Maybe you are keeping the relationship because you are trying to influence them in a positive way. Okay, so this is what you are doing. While doing this are they changing or do you find yourself feeling not too good having to spend time with them? Now, if this person is a spouse then you may want to confront them and deal with it, but if it is an associate/non-family member - just walk away. Walk away, man! There is no water in the desert. The best that you will find will be a hallucination of water (a temporary gesture to keep you around).
Close your eyes and image yourself without that person in your life. Is it better? Sometimes, these people are the distraction that you have been praying to get rid of for a long time. Or maybe you have been praying for confidence. Remember, you have to act on a prayer. Take a look at who you are associating with daily and then make a move. I know that some of these people maybe at your job and you find it difficult to get away from them. I would just say this, if they are not talking about work keep the conversation brief and only about work. Don’t entertain them or mislead them into thinking you want the relationship to continue to be more than work related. You can do it! You may feel a little displaced or lonely for a while, if you have made it a habit of being with that person. However, it will be okay! You existed before you met that person and you will continue to exist without them.